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Working Parents and Sick Kids

We asked Moms:
What do you do if your child gets sick and you have to go to work?

Compiled from WMOMS discussions by Philippa H.
 WMOMS (wmoms@world.std.com) is a mailing list for working parents. For more information, send email to "majordomo@world.std.com' and in the message type "info wmoms".

Disclaimer: Some of this advice worked for some people some of the time. Neither they, WMOMS nor Working Moms Refuge take responsibility for its applicability to your family. Please discuss any questions with your own network of professionals, friends and family first.

Table of Contents:

Q:   How much time do you lose from work having to stay home with a sick child?

A. Most parents find that a great deal of time is missed from work during a child's first year of life (usually more than a week per child). However, as the child grows up, the amount of work missed usually decreases substantially.

Q:   When a child is sick, which parent stays home?

A: One parent can stay home for the entire day while the other parent works. This is usually based on workload/activity. When it is impossible for one parent to take the entire day off from work, parents can provide "tag-team" care for the sick child. This option usually involves one parent staying home in the morning and going to work in the afternoon, possibly working later into the evening. The other parent will work mornings, leaving earlier in the morning so as to accomplish as much work as possible. Some parents find this second option to be inconvenient and will try to use the first option whenever possible.

To avoid situations where it is impossible for one parent to miss a full day of work,parents will often attempt to coordinate their schedules so that important projects/meetings are not scheduled on the same day.

Q:   If neither parent can stay home with a sick child, what other options are available?

A: Here are several options:

  1. Find a family member or friend to care for the sick child.
  2. Use in-home sick child care. In some areas, licensed health aides can be hired to come into your home and care for a sick child. Often these aides are authorized to take temperatures and administer medications although some health aides are not allowed to administer *any* medications (including prescribed antibiotics or fever/pain medication). These services are sometimes subsidized by a parent's employer.
  3. Use sick child-care centres. These centres, often located in pediatric hospital departments are particularly useful with older preschoolers and children of an early elementary school age. However, some sick child-care centres require 24 hrs notice and will not accept contagious children (e.g. chicken pox) which might result in their usefulness being limited in some situations. Again, this service is sometimes subsidized by a parent's employer.
  4. Sometimes the child is brought into work with one of the parents. This is a feasible alternative when the child is older and/or is only mildly sick.
  5. Older children are sometimes allowed to stay home alone while both parents work.

Q:   When a parent stays home with a sick child, how is the absenteeism explained to the employer?

A. Many parents use paid sick/vacation days when they have to take time off to care for a sick child. Although many parents take this time off as "personal" time, some companies request that employees differentiate between "personal sick time" and time taken to care for a sick child. Once a parent's paid time has been exhausted, many parents find that they have to make up for time missed in other ways (i.e. come to work earlier or stay later, work weekends or take shortened lunch breaks).

Q:   What do single parents do in the same situation?

A. Many single parents use Nanny's/in-home child care for exactly this reason. However, when the Nanny is sick, back up childcare must be found. In this situation some options are:

  1. Use a friend's Nanny or find a family member or friend to care for the child.

  2. Some commercial daycare which will accept children on a space-available drop-in basis (although this is usually quite expensive).

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