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I recently moved to florida and am living with my mother. After being at home with my 2 yr old son for 6 months I am forced to take a full time office job. He is in daycare and my mom brings him there and picks him up for me since it's on her way to work and she doesn't leave as early as i do or come home as late. Well, just a few days ago my son has started calling my mom ma ma instead of nanna like he use to. I'm so happy he has such a close relionship with her but I can't help from feeling hurt. It also seems like he isnt' as excited to see me when I come home from work. What can I do?
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Chris,
Your son is two. He's just a little guy. He knows who you are. Sure he seems excited to see your mom and it's only natural for him to call her mama because he hears you call your mom, "Mom." My aunt and cousin went through a similar thing. When my cousin's son called my aunt, "Mama," my aunt would just laugh and say, "I'm your mama's mama." He's six now and he knows who is who in the family. And yes, he's excited to see his Grandma over his mom, but that's because moms are always the heavys. You know, time for bed, time to eat, wash your face....
-- Loretta
Chris, my mother watches my 17 month old daughter and I have been worried about the same thing. She hasn't called "Nonna" "Mamma" yet, but she did surprise me a few times by calling me "Amy" instead of "Mamma"! I talked to my mom and together we are very careful about what we say now ... I tell my daughter repeatedly we are going to Nonna's, did you have fun at nonnas, can mommy have a hug, etc.
When I pick her up, I try to spend a few minutes playing or doing whatever she is doing at the time with her, so I am not taking her away from her fun just because I am home. I can usually get her to bring me a flower, a baby doll or a picture. Now, she sometimes has these things ready for me ... so she seems as excited to see me as I am to see her!
Good Luck
-- Amy
Don't worry about it if your son calls you mother mama. Two year olds get confused sometimes. Regardless of what he calls you, he loves you and knows you are his mother. Be thankful that he has someone else that he can have a close loving relationship with.
I felt pretty bad when my daughter (now 4 1/2) occassionally called me by her daycare provider's name when she was 2, but I didn't make a big deal of it or hold it against her daycare provider, and she doesn't do it anymore. My 2 year old son has had a few slips lately with the same thing, but I just let him go on with his story that he is telling me and am thankful that I have a good loving daycare for him while I am at work.
Your son may not seem as excited to see you because he is engaged in an activity already. He knows you will be home and is taking that for granted, so he doesn't want to stop what he is doing right now. This is normal for a 2 year old. Instead of feeling left out that he doesn't jump into your arms the minute you come home, take a minute to take off your shoes, relax, then try to become engaged in what he is doing, i.ee build a tower with him if he is playing with blocks. Showing interest in what he is doing will show him that he is important to you and provide him with an early opportunity to lead.
-- barb
Chris,
I too was hurt when my 4 year old would and still does occasionally call my mother "momma," and the fact that when I noticed he was growing up and calling me "momma," instead of "mommy," she said yeah me too, but if the case was really that they think that is their mommy then why did my son accidently call my dad "MOM" simple he gets excited and says what comes to mind First "MOM," I guess we should be flattered
FROM ONE KRIS TO ANOTHER
-- KRIS
My mom also watches my two children and my two year old will occasionally slip and call me Mom-Mom or my Mom "Mommy" and I haven't let it bother me because it's hard for him to flip-flop so quickly when he's around both of us all of the time. How many times do we as adults look at someone straight in the eye and call them by another name because we're thinking of something else? Can you imagine what a two year old's head is filled with? He also has called me by my first name when he hears it said out loud. Don't let it bother you, it's not done out of favoritism. It's done while he's trying to figure out relationships.
-- Robin
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