Second Wives

The Benefits in Being A Stepmom!

by Susan Wilkins-Hubley

You read my title and think to yourself... "Are there really any benefits to being a stepmother"? After all, we are the ones with warts on our noses and hairy chins who cackle while boiling our stepchildren! Well there certainly are some benefits to being a stepmom. You don't have to actually give birth to your stepkids, you also don't have to go through an uncomfortable pregnancy, gain weight, retain water, have a hard labor with a nurse insisting you are NOT dilated at all. You also probably won't have those wonderful poopy bum changes late into the night!

As a stepmom, a certain amount of "evilness" is expected of you and therefore you could possible get away with a few mistakes. You can cackle on any other day aside from October 31st and no one will look at you funny. You can be the good guy sometimes and spoil the stepchildren with a gift or some spending money when they are older and not feel obligated to hand out a weekly allowance! If you are a non-custodial stepmom, you can see your stepkids when they come to your home and send them home and then relax.

Non-custodial stepmoms are not on "mommy duty" 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Stepmoms can also place much of the parenting responsibilities on the biological father (after all they are his kids) and you can go out to a movie with a friend, or lounge in a book store. Stepmoms can step back from discipline and disassociate themselves if they want to. This way they are not "the evil one" all the time. Stepmoms also can love their stepchildren but know that they are not expected to be "mom" if they don't want to be. There really are some real benefits to be a stepmom, it is not always a bad situation to be in, it can be very rewarding. Just pluck your chin, get a good wart remover and smile!

Stepmoms are very special people! Hug a stepmom today!

Susan Wilkins-Hubley is a Canadian work-at-home mom. She started The Second Wives Club in October, 1997, a very private club for second wives and stepmoms world-wide. It is a safe place to discuss stepparenting issues as well as issues surrounding second marriages, blended family issues etc. The non-traditional family statistics are soaring and Susan hopes to provide women with THE resource for support and camaraderie!

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